Tuesday, August 22, 2006

Use Influence

Just try and use authoritarian ways of managing people at work and see what reaction you get.
Today, unlike the past, the "do-what-I-say-or-else" approach will not work.Try it - you could be surprised with the result.

That doesn't mean to say that you can't get people to do what you want. It's just that you have to use less force and more influencing.

"Remember the fable by Aesop in which the North wind and the sun had a contest to see who could get a traveler to take off his coat first. The wind blew with all his might but the traveler just held his coat tighter. The sun then shone with all his might until the traveler grew too warm and had to take it off.The sun used influence not force.

Blogs are making big bucks today and influencing in a very subtle manner - want examples see
GigaOm,AlwaysOn-Network,Drudge Report,HuffingtonPost,engadget,textually.org,TechCrunch etc. Blogs are growing and growing and growing only and have become real easy & cheap to maintain too.This blog itself is quite old and is getting some traffic too - even if it is one visitor in a lifetime - that visitor will take action after reading the stories and seeing websites mentioned here.

That is all for now.Till next time.

Thursday, August 10, 2006

A couple of landmarks (strictly personal)

I just want to submit here that I have posted more than 1000 articles that have been saved in the page http://del.icio.us/parvez1 and yes I have thumbsupped more than a 20,000 articles and pages I liked on http://parvez.stumbleupon.com and more than 5000 unique visitors have seen my pages on the above 2 websites and on the personal front I have been able to find a few great friends in India and abroad.I have been able to strike a few business deals too online.All you need to do is meet more people and talk about what you want after explaining the need to a client and without wasting time conclude a transaction.I have been able to empower a few rural entrepreneurs and given them a new source of income through the sale of an idea to the enablers of the deal and all of it was done through the internet and yes I am writing about it here to just inform it is possible and a real difference can be made and yes there is real money online.I am also glad some info on the above mentioned collections has been really used to make real some info has been used to make living a little easier through the medical and health related info there,a little info has made lives easier for NGOs and teachers in general and some business decisions have been made by firms that have resulted in business gains.Who says the Net does not work!,it not only works it rocks!

Tuesday, August 08, 2006

A post on self esteem

self esteem

Self-esteem reflects whether a person loves, accepts, and believes in who they are. The simplest way to raise a person's self-esteem is to improve that person's way of thinking and add reason to the same. This is easy, thereasons have to be right and should appeal to the person and/or group self-esteem will grow by adopting these thinking patterns:

  1. Rediscover and reaffirm your personal strengths: Sometimes you have to take a new inventory on what you like about your looks, smile, body, sexiness, health, personality, and character strengths. For areas you don't feel real positive about, try to be more accepting of those unique features (example: nose or ears).Still if you want go ahead and change your appearance - people have become black and white too.Be yourself and natural - it works for most of us.
  2. Figure out the hidden strengths in your so-called weaknesses: There is always a positive in every negative if you look hard enough. For instance, you may think of yourself as stubborn, but the flipside is that you're also persistent and dependable.You might waste your time surfing the net - it is quite possible you could come up with the next big idea - you need to find your guru,friends,philosophers and guides online.
  3. Make a long list of your personal breakthroughs: Think of times when you did something that you thought that never could do but managed to pull off successfully. These breakthroughs can generate an authentic source of never-ending pride in you. (Example: speaking up at a meeting,winning a prize in school,sourcing an important component,writing a novel etc.)
  4. Negative comparisons: These are best avoided. Human beings can amplify or reduce their value by contrasting themselves either positively or negatively with others. The most common trait of persons who have developed low self-esteem are to diminish themselves by contrasting how they don't measure up to others.As long as you are doing positive things and earning the bread and growing personally and professionally ignore comparisons.
  5. Stop the critic inside of you: Some people have a nasty habit of putting themselves down often. They say damaging things to themselves like, "I'm always late. Why am I such a flake?" or "There I go again, stupid!" Get in the new habit of catching yourself saying critical things about yourself and learn to silence your inner critic.Be positive and accept that a person makes mistakes - a person who does not make mistakes is not really taking enough risks.It is better to do what you have always loved than be called a wimp or sissy forever.
  6. Blaming yourself for mistakes in the past: Some things are only minimally in your control, but people who develop low self-esteem take the full blame for the resulting negative outcomes. Instead, learn to honor your efforts and give proper credit for things that you have done well.Like in the previous post accet that all make mistakes - have you tried to correct your own mistakes (think about it) - the ones in your control.A corrected mistake is a sureshot way to end the blame game!
  7. Have more compassion for yourself: Realize the adversity of life can make you a stronger and more understanding person. The pain that you have suffered in the past can help you relate to a wider array of people. Your suffering makes you more human if you choose to channel it that way.How many other people have you helped besides yourself?
  8. Be your own cheerleader: The energy and enthusiasm of a cheerleader is necessary in order to make the radical emotional changes required to raise your self-esteem. Use this analogy to illustrate how you talk to yourself, handle adversity, and summon up the courage to pursue your interests. Being your own cheerleader isn't silly, it's smart and contagious.Of course you have to cheer yourself - be your own cheerleader - it is not difficult - stop being indifferent and care for yourself too for a change and do it one thing at a time - say a pat on the back for doing a good thing a day.
  9. Learn something new: Do you like being bored - you might other people do not - it is important to learn something new everytime and keep yourself occupied.
  10. Teach others : Find what they want first and then pass on what you know to the people it is important that you be interesting enough to the people you want something from or else if you do not care who does?Think about it!

The Bottom Line: High self-esteem is attractive and low self-esteem is not. You really want to attract, get, keep,become successful,be able to contribute and enjoy love and acceptance,then it is very important to maintain a high level of self-esteem to keep oneself interested and occupied - the alternative is be boring,stupid, cynical,uncared for,pitied upon,cranky,always whining and complaining - the former is any day better than the latter in my opinion.

There is not a single person on earth who has not made mistakes - have we learnt from our mistakes or not and if yes what are we doing to change for the better ?

Thanks for reading - I know for sure this post will bring greater change and make people more compassionate,less indifferent and more positive.



Friday, August 04, 2006

Conserve laptop battery life

To all who have laptops - please conserve power and get the max for your power literally.Yahoo advisor actually tells us what we can do and hey the stuff works.Well I am all for conservation of power and if the advantage is there to be had let us all make the best.Do follow the link below and use the tips well.

http://tech.yahoo.com/blogs/raskin/703